Diagnosis: One injection of Backbone

I have a friend that freaks out at everything. You have to be careful what you do or what you say around her. It's like you're always walking on ice. See the thing with this friend is I let her walk all over me and I really don't know why. I was her go to girl, the one that was always there no matter what, the one that never said no. We used to have our fights but I'm sure we all go through that with our friends. I wouldn't say anything and she would paint me so bad to her friends but then when things go bad with them she'd then come back to me.

The funny thing with people like her is that instead of apologizing they paint themselves as the victims. I cared so much about her needs that I ended up neglecting my own needs. My actions taught her how to treat me until I adjusted my behavior. It's great to be the nice guy but when it comes at the expense of your own dignity then you need an injection of backbone.
We all have that one person that thinks it's okay to walk in and out of your life as they please. Next time they walk out lock the door and throw away the key, preferably in the Pacific ocean. 

Empathy is a good thing but don't care too too much because you might as well have a sign on your forehead that say, "Yes, I am a doormat among doormats." Don't allow yourself to be someone's doorstep. Take charge of your life and pick your friends wisely.